Just go

To all the young families:

Go to church. Get an actual relationship with God. Not just that “oh, sure, I believe in God. I know Jesus.” type of relationship. But the type that He is all you think about and your whole life is centered around Him. And don’t think you are doing your kids any favors by “letting them choose for themselves”. I am here to tell you that you are not. They will choose the ways of the world everytime and follow your regret-filled footsteps and worse. Don’t you want more than that for them? Listen for God calling to you and go!

Let me tell you why:

If you don’t then you are going to have a past you deeply regret. Yes, once you truly come to Christ you are forgiven. But that doesn’t change what kind of parent you was while you strayed so far from God. It doesn’t change how you raised your kids while being so self centered because you didn’t come to God so He could pull you out of yourself and teach you to love others more than you love yourself. It doesn’t change the choices you made while you didn’t have your aim set on Jesus, the perfector of our faith.

You do not want these regrets. It is one thing to hurt yourself. It is totally another thing to look back and see the damage you did to your kids and others in your life. It is those things that your flesh will wake you up at night thinking about. It is what leaves you in tears as you see your adult kids struggling and you now know the cure but they won’t take it.

Yes, God redeems. Yes, He restores. And I am so thankful for that! Knowing that is what gets me through those painful thoughts and regrets. It is what brings joy and peace back to my heart.

Young families, you don’t want this struggle. No parent is perfect even if you have a God filled home, but the regrets hit a little different when you didn’t. I don’t know who this is for but go. Don’t wait for daddy to go
Momma, you take those kids. Daddy, don’t wait for momma to go. You take them. Just go. Grow. Take it all in and mature in your faith. Give your kids a strong foundation. Find that church that feels like home and truly loves you and your kids. Those churches are out there, I promise you. Seek until you find it. And then serve. Serve in that church and feel your heart fill with joy. Not because it is good work. Although it is. Not because you are being obedient. Although you are. But because it fills you with joy, peace, and love to serve a church that serves you! It keeps you from being self centered and opens you up to learning how to love others better. Especially your kids.

Don’t you hear Him calling? Just go.

I may regret a huge portion of my past but I never have regretted studying my bible, being in church, or serving. Just. Go.

Proverbs 29:15
The rod (the Bible) and reproof (Godly instruction to correct behavior or to rebuke) give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame (regret) to his mother.

Ephesians 6:4
Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

The Great Physician

When I came to Jesus, like truly surrendered to Him, I was still not in a good place. I didn’t become obedient or get in step with the Spirit immediately. God took me through baby steps. He didn’t overwhelm me with needing to be perfect all at once. He told me to come just as I am.

My first act of obedience was to attend church. Do you understand that means I was attending church while I was still very deep in sin? Honestly, I was in and out with my attention while the preacher spoke. I would pick up on a few things here and there that would convict me pretty hard. Sometimes I wanted to walk out and not come back but God kept me there. I was also listening to a few preachers online. I kept hearing over and over “read your bible”.

That was my next step in obedience. I didn’t understand a word of it. I would hear this small voice say “Don’t give up. Dig deeper.” So, I googled my questions and found The Enduring Word commentaries. I also learned how to pray for wisdom because God always offers wisdom when we ask. Slowly, I started to understand. It was like a blinder was coming off my eyes or like I was learning a new language. I was amazed at what was being revealed to me. Amazed and convicted. So convicted! I was still deep in sin, remember? Reading Gods word for myself made it so much more personal. It was God himself showing me all I had done. It was Him sending life changing conviction. It was Him teaching me His grace, love, mercy, and forgivenss along the way. He changed me. He loved me right where I was and He started, sin by sin, tearing them down. He is still at work on me today and will be for the rest of my time on earth.

I am so thankful for that first step. I am so thankful for a church that didnt push me away due to my sin. A true Godly church will never turn you away when you need them the most. Church is for the “sick” and God shows up as our Great Physician. We are all sick. Maybe different levels with different devils…but we are all in need of our Great Physician. If you are in the middle of feeling scorned by a church, lost in the bible, or just scared to even try at all….Don’t give up. Dig deeper. Friend, it is so worth those first wobbly steps into your walk with Him. So many of us have been right where you are. Reach out. I am here to take your hand along the way. God is even more present than any earthly hand you could have. Let Him steady your steps and put you on a path everlasting.

Mark 2:17
On hearing this, Jesus said to them, “It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick. I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners.”

Church is for sinners

“I’m too caught up in sin to go to church.” Friend, church is for the sinners. Church points you to the God of change. God does not expect you to change yourself first. Do you want to be healed? Then get uo and get in the water. You have two choices….keep leaving by the world and waiting for situations to change or come just as you are to the God that sent His only son to wash your sins away. A baby isnt born into this world expected to know how to walk and feed itself. You are not born into Christ expected to know how to walk or feed yourself. Get in a group of more mature Christians (like church), listen to sermons online along with going to church, and read bible studies that help you understand verses. Be fed and learn how to walk from others that are further along. Then before you know it, you will be helping to feed others. You will be helping others walk. And that old sin that you felt was too bad for church…you will overcome that. You will start to do more of the right things and it wont even seem that hard anymore. I know how it feels to need to let go of something for God. But I also know I didnt let go until I was deep in church and Gods word. I also know letting go of that sin was the best thing I ever did. It could have cost me everything but I gained a Father’s love, forgiveness and and a close relationship with Him and that is worth it all.

Hypocrits of Church

Some people say “I dont go to church because of all the hypocrits.” And others respond “we are all hypocrits.” Thats very true, but I believe some hypocrits those people refer to are the ones that come to church just to be seen or to feel like it is just something they are supposed to do. There are some that sit in the pew and dont pay a lick of attention to a single word. There are those that say “I beleive Jesus died for our sins and thats good enough for me” and dont want to know Him any more than that. I understand the type of people you are talking about. I used to be one. My words to you are..go anyway. Because there are people there that say “Jesus, I want to follow you honestly. I want your ways to be my ways. When people look at me I want them to see you. Even though I may stumble and feel like I am the hypocrit…You know me better than that and pick me back up.” And to all of you that do that. Thank you. You set the example and give others something to strive for. Thank you for being honest with Jesus so I could learn to do the same.